by Seasonsgirl
In light of recent events I have changed this weeks value of Christmas to Focusing on our Families…
This year has been an unusual year for holidays for many reasons and no particular reason at all… Now with recent events it has placed a dark shadow over many people’s holiday season. The only thing I can think of is for us to focus on what we do have… our family, whether that be our family of birth or our family of creation (friends, distant relatives, spouses family, ect).
Many of us are blessed with a big family… One where you almost feel suffocated when you get together as there are so many people (hubby’s family)… but other families like mine are so small you may only have one or two people to call “family”. So I focus on who I have now in my family of birth and creation including my family of birth (Dad, Mom, step-father, Grandmother, Uncle, and Great aunt) as well as all the family hubby has brought into my life. Coming from a small family and being an only child had its lonely moments, but I usually filled them with friends or imagination. Hubby on the other hand is happy to have a moment’s peace as he didn’t get that being the middle of 5.
Now that hubby and I are trying to start a family of our own things have changed. I have always planed for the day we would have kids, but since starting this process… that plan was ramped up. Now due to our fertility issues I have had to put on the breaks and focus on what I do have. I have to be grateful I have two great dogs that I can love, dote on, and care for. I have hubby who keeps me plenty busy with things he needs. I have my father living with us and if you have ever had to care for an aging or disable parent, you know how busy and sometimes frustrating that is, but rewarding. I have my mom a few hours away that I get to see every couple of months or monthly if we can find a weekend I am not swamped with things to do. My grandmother who will be here in a couple short days and I get to relive some of my favorite childhood memories with her- baking cookies, playing eye-spy, playing cards, etc. 
I guess what I am trying to say is… when loss occurs it is easy to shut others out, but knowing I have people who love and care about me allows me to stay open to the gifts God has for me… and hopefully one day soon that gift will be a child of my own to worry about in this getting worse by the moment world. And hopefully I will find the kindness and gratitude in the world to share with them. I pray all of you have someone to hug tonight and know during this seasons we all need to focus our time and energy on our families 🙂
“While they were there, the time came for the baby to be born, and she gave birth to her firstborn son. She wrapped him in cloths and placed him in the manger because there was no room for them in the in.” Luke 2:6-7
Our prayers are still with those affected in Newtown…
Seasonsgirl 
Prayers for you and your hubby that God would bless you with a child to love and care for. 🙂
Thank you very much 🙂
You’re welcome! I don’t know how long you have been trying, but for us our first pregnancy happened very quickly. Then when we tried for the second about 3 1/2 years later, it wasn’t so quick. We waited 15 months before we were successful. I know that sounds like no time at all, but when you have that desire in your heart that only a woman knows, it seems like an eternity. Month after month of disappointment. I say this in hopes that it will give you some encouragement. God has a specified time for everything and we just have to know that it’s in His time.
We have been trying for almost two years now for our frist. We have gone to fertility specialists and are waiting a final test so we can hopefully start IUI in Feb or March. We know the issue and are hopefull with some help we can have a baby. We have a dream to have a big family and live of a farm raising animals and some crops. We are working towards many dreams at once 🙂
What a beautiful post. I too was an only child, and my husband is from a larger family, him being the 3 out of 5, I only have my mom left on my side, and an Aunt I have never met, and an uncle I dont know either. But I am learning that what family you do have is so important. My husbands family if disfunctional if I may say so, but I keep trying to encourage them all how important it is especially now a days. Thanks for your post, and may God bless you with the desire of your heart. Have a great day.
Thank you very much.. how much more we all have in common then we know… both of us having husbands that are 3 out of 5 and my husbands family is “dysfunctional” too 😉
Sometimes a smaller world than we realize!!
I agree 🙂
Sending you lots of love and good energy during the holidays. Great post… and I hope you and your hubby have better luck with starting your family. xoxo
How wonderful… I feel the love and energy already 🙂 I am glad you liked the post and Merry Christmas 🙂
Heartfelt and timely post. We have a lot in common even though we are separated by many years. I have a similar only child family while my husband is one of 9, and we struggled for five years to have a child who became an only as well. Life deals you some cards you can do something about and others you can’t – the trick is to figure that part out and then embrace your life to the fullest. May your life be full of happiness.
I always marvel as I go though life at how so may of us are more similer then different… if we take the time to notice. When things like Newtown happen I always wonder if we all functioned with this assumption if thing would be better. I am happy to hear more of your story 🙂 So happy you enjoyed the post 🙂
Still keeping you in prayer for the baby so you so desire. Hope your Christmas is wonderful Hugs and nose kisses
Thank you… you are always so kind 🙂 I hope you have a wonderful Christmas also 🙂
I love this post, I hope you and your hubby will be lucky this next year with a baby! 🙂 Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers, having a baby is beautiful and they fill your life every day with their beautiful smiles 🙂 Virtual hugs, wish you Happy Holidays! 🙂
Thank you for your kindness and support. We are stying hopefull for the new year 🙂 We always apperciate prayers 🙂 Virtual hug back… Merry Christmas 🙂
Thank you! 🙂 Merry Christmas to you too! 🙂
I really enjoyed reading this post and I can so much relate to what you say both about big and small families, and also waiting for your child to come to you. We tried for 8 years, adopted, and then had a child the usual way. As the people in Scotland say, “What’s meant for you won’t pass you by”.
Wishing you a peaceful Christmas, full of light, love and hope.
Thanks for sharing. I enjoyed the quote at the bottom and have posted it on my work desk 🙂