In light of recent events I have changed this weeks value of Christmas to Focusing on our Families…This year has been an unusual year for holidays for many reasons and no particular reason at all… Now with recent events it has placed a dark shadow over many people’s holiday season. The only thing I can think of is for us to focus on what we do have… our family, whether that be our family of birth or our family of creation (friends, distant relatives, spouses family, ect).
Many of us are blessed with a big family… One where you almost feel suffocated when you get together as there are so many people (hubby’s family)… but other families like mine are so small you may only have one or two people to call “family”. So I focus on who I have now in my family of birth and creation including my family of birth (Dad, Mom, step-father, Grandmother, Uncle, and Great aunt) as well as all the family hubby has brought into my life. Coming from a small family and being an only child had its lonely moments, but I usually filled them with friends or imagination. Hubby on the other hand is happy to have a moment’s peace as he didn’t get that being the middle of 5.
Now that hubby and I are trying to start a family of our own things have changed. I have always planed for the day we would have kids, but since starting this process… that plan was ramped up. Now due to our fertility issues I have had to put on the breaks and focus on what I do have. I have to be grateful I have two great dogs that I can love, dote on, and care for. I have hubby who keeps me plenty busy with things he needs. I have my father living with us and if you have ever had to care for an aging or disable parent, you know how busy and sometimes frustrating that is, but rewarding. I have my mom a few hours away that I get to see every couple of months or monthly if we can find a weekend I am not swamped with things to do. My grandmother who will be here in a couple short days and I get to relive some of my favorite childhood memories with her- baking cookies, playing eye-spy, playing cards, etc.
I guess what I am trying to say is… when loss occurs it is easy to shut others out, but knowing I have people who love and care about me allows me to stay open to the gifts God has for me… and hopefully one day soon that gift will be a child of my own to worry about in this getting worse by the moment world. And hopefully I will find the kindness and gratitude in the world to share with them. I pray all of you have someone to hug tonight and know during this seasons we all need to focus our time and energy on our families 🙂
“While they were there, the time came for the baby to be born, and she gave birth to her firstborn son. She wrapped him in cloths and placed him in the manger because there was no room for them in the in.” Luke 2:6-7
Our prayers are still with those affected in Newtown…